There has been a lot of talk around vulnerability lately.
I blame Brené Brown.
Okay, not JUST Brené Brown, but she’s probably the most famous one at this point. She gives talks about vulnerability all the time. They are really, really good talks. She speaks from the heart. She lays bare all her flaws. She challenges everyone else to do the same.
And people love it. And they love her. And everyone leaves promising themselves and each other that they will be more vulnerable to get past that fear, that they will have a strong back and a soft front, because there is power in vulnerability.
Then people go back to their daily lives, where there a whole bunch of other people who have never heard of Brené Brown who think vulnerability is a weakness and that you have to suck it up and show a brave face. And so, the idea of living a life of true vulnerability (like Brené Brown) is abandoned. It just seems too daunting and overwhelming, and besides – just getting through the workday is hard enough without worrying about whether you were vulnerable enough, right?
Here’s the thing – I think most people live lives of vulnerability all the time, just in different ways. They don’t call attention to it, they just do it.
- Standing up for a coworker
- Just eating the damn cake without apologizing for it
- Crying when you’re upset
- Sharing when you’re nervous
- Wearing that red pair of shoes because you feel amazing in them
- Dressing up for Halloween, even though the “cool kids” will make fun of you
- Reading a romance novel at lunch in the cafeteria
- Posting updates about how you had to evacuate your home
- Sharing your love of goofy movies
- Asking for help on a project
- Giving a friend a hug when they need it
- Admitting you were wrong
- Going to the grocery store with small kids and an even smaller budget
- Traveling to an unfamiliar place
- Granting grace to someone…especially yourself
- Being different
Recognize any of these? In others? In yourself? Vulnerability happens EVERY. DAMN. DAY. We just don’t always recognize it or appreciate it when it happens.
So how will you embrace the vulnerability in your life? How will you define it?
Because guess what –
So you may have noticed that I’ve done precious little posting to my own blog. Yes, I’ve been writing here and there in other publications, yet I have neglected my own.
To be fair, I’ve been busy. It’s been a hell of a year. Over the past 12 months, I’ve left one job, had surgery (I’m fine, thanks!), took some time off, started another job (which I love), and have generally just been settling into a new normal. My new job is a mix of working from home and traveling to client sites – the best of all worlds! (Yes, I’m one of those weird people who kind of likes business travel. My dog, on the other hand, is completely thrown for a loop. “You’re here, like, all the time…then you’re gone forever. Then you’re here again. WHAT IS GOING ON?!”)
Honestly, I admit I was stunned by how little I’ve actually posted during this time. I’ve never been one to write every day or every week, but you can see where I dropped off. While “busy-ness” is a reason for neglecting my little blog, it doesn’t take THAT long to write something. Looking back, I think it’s a factor of a few things – big changes in work/life (those take time to process); opportunities to write elsewhere (I hate rehashing existing content, so good ideas may have moved to another platform); and, finally…I didn’t have that much to say. A lot of material for work-based blogs come from what you see at work. Since I don’t work in-house anymore, I don’t have everyday interactions that make me think, “What the…,” so it doesn’t really spur the need to write it down. And a lot of this past year has been about learning a new job, so I’ve been focused on input rather than output.
But I miss writing here, so I’m going to do it more. The focus might shift a bit. I mean, let’s be honest…I’ve never been THAT on point with the topic anyway. And I’m noticing different things in the world of work that interest me, so that will inspire different thoughts.
So stay tuned.
And thanks for sticking it out.
Hello, everyone! This month, I have the great honor of hosting the Carnival of HR – a collection of blog posts from our friends and peers doing awesome and important things out in the world of the internet. When Robin Schooling asked me if I’d be willing to host, I said, “Of course!” Or maybe I said, “Do I have to?” The record is unclear. But what IS clear is that the Carnival is a great way to be exposed to a variety of voices in the HR space – some you know, some you don’t.
There is no real theme this month – more of a “what do you have to say about HR” approach. And people have a LOT to say. I sort of wanted to make it more like the Brazilian Carnival, mostly because it’s super fun to say car-ni-VAHL. Plus, who doesn’t love to samba?! But alas…it is but a blog post sharing other blog posts. Feel free to wear your most festive feathered Carnival outfit while you read them.
This month’s entries include:
- John Hunter, author and founder of Curious Cat, LLC, explores some suggestions on how to successfully navigate change, including leveraging influence AND acknowledging the sins of the past.
- HR practitioner and podcast host Wendy Dailey examines her own path to better self awareness in the attempt to be more inclusive.
- Proper disciplinary procedures: it may not be sexy, but it can save you a world of hurt later down the line. Judith Lindenberger, President of The Lindenberger Group, outlines a simple yet effective approach to addressing inappropriate behavior.
- Acacia HR Solutions CEO Sabrina Baker warns against approaching leadership development as a checkbox activity versus a commitment to the growth of their employees.
- Curious about the impact structure has on a company’s culture and need help navigating that evolution? Read this post by DesignAround’s Julie Winkle Giulioni.
- Dorothy Dalton, CEO of 3Plus International, presents a compelling suggestion on how to get more women in leadership…and it involves leave for men.
- I’m a sucker for all things employment law, so founder of Rudner Law Stuart Rudner’s article outlining what companies can and can’t dictate around tattoos and piercings was a fascinating read.
- Blended learning can be an effective way to help your employees grow. Melissa Suzuno, HR and L&D Insights writer for Udemy for Business, recommends five approaches to weave into your business’s blended learning strategy.
- Also from UDemy for Business, Shelley Osborne, Head of L&D, shares tips on how to apply Agile development techniques to learning & development processes.
- Dr. Natalie Baumgartner is the Chief Workforce Scientist at Achievers and has done some really cool work in the areas of culture and engagement…and resilience. She shares her insights around the ways you might go about building a resilient workforce in your company. It’s about being intentional and it’s not rocket science, even though she DOES have a PhD.
- Recognition getting you down? Lynne Levy, Workhuman evangelist, outlines the myths of do-it-yourself recognition programs and suggests another way.
- Perhaps you’ve run into John Baldino (aka Jumbo Gina), President of Humareso, in your travels to conference. Perhaps not. I hope you get to. John challenges companies to approach learning strategy as more than just an LMS implementation. And he references Zoolander, so you know it’s good.
- Over on Voice of HR, Mark Stelzner, Founder and Managing Principal at IA-HR, addresses the challenges our love affair with the cloud has generated in workplaces and the best ways to overcome them. He’s not anti-cloud, he’s pro-relationships.
- Having employee relations issues at work? Anthony Paradiso, Human Resources Business Partner/Consultant, makes the connection between inclusion, diversity and equity and employee relations. It’s people…not politics.
- And last, but not least, some guy named Steve Browne, who works as an HR leader at LaRosa’s Pizza, submitted a post on a topic that many of us are staring squarely in the face – navigating the new world of being a “sandwich generation” and how businesses can help eliminate some of the stress associated with it.
So there you have it – the July 2019 edition of Carnival of HR. Connect with this people. Learn more about them. If you had a reaction to their work, let them know! All writers want to know that people are reading their content. We’re needy that way,
Be good to each other, and be on the lookout for next month’s edition!