You see the message everywhere in marketing:
“You deserve a break today…” (McDonald’s)
“You’ve earned it! Take a cruise…” (Norwegian Cruises)
“Because you’re worth it…” (L’Oreal)
We are continually inundated with assurances that we are amazing, we are hard working, we are entitled to some pampering and rewards.
There are leaders out there who can’t believe they’ve reach their current level and are just waiting for someone to realize they don’t know what they’re doing.
There are employees out there who go to a job they hate every single day because they think they’re trapped and have no other options.
All too often we get in our own way. We assume we don’t have the skills to do something different. We think we’re selling out if we go for that higher level of job with a better salary or work/life balance. We can’t understand why anyone would want to promote us, and we don’t know who thought it would be a good idea to put us in charge of that project.
We get sucked into a belief system – the belief that we are trapped by skills, ambition, lifestyle. That we AREN’T good enough, smart enough, and doggone it, people DON’T like us.
I’m here to tell you that your belief system might be broken.
It’s okay to want that promotion you earned.
It’s okay to listen to people when they say you’ve got mad skillz and know what you’re doing.
It’s okay to realize that you aren’t in the right job at the right time and to have a plan to try something new.
It’s okay to NOT try something new, and decide that your job isn’t your everything and that you just need to find a hobby that makes you happy. (So says Laurie Ruettimann…and she’s pretty smart.)
The point is – don’t let the reasons you struggle be based on your belief that you don’t deserve it.
If you’ve worked hard, have half a brain, gained self-awareness, whatever it is – you’re worth it.
You DO deserve a break today, so give yourself one. Remove those obstacles in your head and get to working on the real ones you face.
You’re worth it.